Neurodiversity and Couples
AUTISM
Navigating a relationship when one partner has autism and the other is neurotypical can present unique challenges and unique blessings. With the right support and strategies, it is absolutely possible to build a happy and successful life together.
As therapists who specialize in both couples counseling and neurodiversity Sanctuary Counseling recognizes that communication is key in all relationships. When a partner has autism, they may communicate differently or have difficulty expressing their thoughts and feelings as they wish to, and this can lead to misunderstandings or frustration for both partners. It is essential to create an open and safe environment where both partners feel comfortable discussing their feelings, needs, and desires without fear of judgment or misunderstanding. Sanctuary works with couples to develop effective communication strategies that accommodate BOTH partners’ needs and styles.
In a neurodiverse relationship, it is also important to recognize and respect each other’s differences. The neurotypical partner may need to adjust their expectations and approach to certain aspects of the relationship to accommodate their partner’s needs. At the same time, the partner with autism may need to learn and practice new social and communication skills to help them better connect with their partner.
It is essential to approach these differences with a spirit of curiosity and empathy rather than judgment or frustration. It is so important for both partners to learn about and understand each other’s differences. This means learning about autism and how it affects a person’s behavior and perspective. It also means learning about neurotypical traits and needs. When both partners have a better understanding of each other, they can work together to find ways to meet both of their needs.
If you are in a neurodiverse relationship, it is important to seek support when you need it. Whether it is to learn communication skills, develop better structure and routines in your home, or nurture self-care balanced with connection, counseling can be tremendously helpful. Sanctuary recognizes that neurodiverse relationships can be beautiful and rewarding. We are here to help you gain the insights and skills to help you build a strong and lasting bond. Give us a call today.
ADHD
ADHD can have a significant impact on relationships. It is not uncommon for couples dealing with ADHD to feel frustrated, misunderstood, resentful, and disconnected from one another. ADHD can affect everything from communication to daily routines, making it challenging for both partners to feel supported and fulfilled in the relationship. ADHD can put strain on even the most loving and committed partnerships.
One of the biggest struggles for couples with ADHD is communication. People often struggle to stay focused during conversations and may interrupt or change the subject frequently. This can leave their partner feeling unheard and unimportant. A person with ADHD may have difficulty expressing themselves clearly, and this too can lead to miscommunication and hurt feelings. Additionally, the partner without ADHD may feel like they are constantly repeating themselves or struggling to get their partner’s attention.
Another challenge is managing household responsibilities. People with ADHD may struggle with organization and time management, making it difficult to keep up with chores or follow through on commitments. This can create resentment and frustration for their partner, who may feel like they are carrying an unfair burden of “mental load” or “emotional labor.”
Despite these challenges, it is important to remember that ADHD is a treatable condition. With the right strategies and support, couples can learn to navigate this together. With the help of a therapist skilled in both ADHD treatment and couples counseling, couples can learn communication strategies, coping mechanisms, and problem-solving techniques to help manage the challenges that arise. By working together and learning how to support each other, couples can build a stronger and more connected relationship.
Sanctuary Counseling has professionals who understand ADHD and its impact on relationships. We are compassionate experts who can help your relationship. Please give us a call today to learn more about how we can help you and your partner thrive.