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Depression Is A Liar

Depression can leave you feeling numb, foggy, exhausted, and disoriented, not just, "sad."

Depression can leave you feeling numb, foggy, exhausted, and disoriented, not just, “sad.”

We all know Depression is a horrible, stinking liar. I envision Depression as the mean girl who wouldn’t let anyone with the “wrong” shoes sit at her cafeteria table. She spreads rumors about you that are mean, but somehow just believable enough that people don’t dare question her. She’s so good at deflecting attention and building herself up by disparaging others that no one realizes what she’s doing, and slowly, everyone believes her that you’re not good enough, nice enough, cool enough, smart enough, pretty enough, or simply… enough… even you. Just like that girl we all (maybe not so secretly) disliked in high school, Depression is a mean, despicable liar. The trick is knowing how to spot “her.”

1. Depression hides: Depression is sneaky. It hides, and when you’re depressed, you might hide too. Often, this means you hide your depression from others, putting on a brave or happy face when you’re out and about, at work or school, or engaging with family. But when you allow depression to hide by giving her a secret place — those alone moments, the quiet times — she gains a foothold and starts to take over in other areas. So ask yourself: Am I depressed when I’m alone? If you are, consider talking to someone you love and trust about your feelings before they worsen. Sometimes, just knowing that someone else is aware of your feelings and is keeping an eye out for you, and is there to support you, is enough to help you feel a bit better. This won’t alleviate serious depression, of course, but it helps not being alone, and it’s a good first step.

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Helping Children Deal With Tragedy

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Remember to keep it as simple as possible. Be honest and reassuring.

This week, we all held our collective breath, watching the news and scanning the Internet as reports flooded in about the Boston Marathon bombing. Such an emotional, stressful event naturally brings up past trauma, and so many of us were remembering 9/11 as we were bombarded with images that seemed eerily familier: smoke, injured and frightened people, a city street in broad daylight, and emergency personnel rushing in toward the unknown. When something this horrific happens, it’s difficult for people to cope with their feelings and the anxiety and fear that such an event might elicit. For children, these events are frightening in and of themselves, and then those feelings can be compounded by a sense of confusion and insecurity. Here are some tips for talking to your child(ren) after a tragic or traumatic event.

1. Keep it simple: Remember that while the Boston Marathon bombing may evoke memories of 9/11 or other tragedies for you, your child may be experiencing this type of event for the first time. Try to focus on the event at hand so that your conversation does not turn into a long discussion of multiple tragedies. Read More…

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