We all know Depression is a horrible, stinking liar. I envision Depression as the mean girl who wouldn’t let anyone with the “wrong” shoes sit at her cafeteria table. She spreads rumors about you that are mean, but somehow just believable enough that people don’t dare question her. She’s so good at deflecting attention and building herself up by disparaging others that no one realizes what she’s doing, and slowly, everyone believes her that you’re not good enough, nice enough, cool enough, smart enough, pretty enough, or simply… enough… even you. Just like that girl we all (maybe not so secretly) disliked in high school, Depression is a mean, despicable liar. The trick is knowing how to spot “her.”
1. Depression hides: Depression is sneaky. It hides, and when you’re depressed, you might hide too. Often, this means you hide your depression from others, putting on a brave or happy face when you’re out and about, at work or school, or engaging with family. But when you allow depression to hide by giving her a secret place — those alone moments, the quiet times — she gains a foothold and starts to take over in other areas. So ask yourself: Am I depressed when I’m alone? If you are, consider talking to someone you love and trust about your feelings before they worsen. Sometimes, just knowing that someone else is aware of your feelings and is keeping an eye out for you, and is there to support you, is enough to help you feel a bit better. This won’t alleviate serious depression, of course, but it helps not being alone, and it’s a good first step.