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Fantasy and Dreams Don’t Die After Childhood: the Nature of Expressive Arts

When people ask me to explain how play therapy for children is supposed to be similar to talk therapy for adults, I find myself drawn to explain how intuition develops with age. Do you remember nostalgic days of recess playgrounds and backyard pretend? When kids are roleplaying superheroes or re-enacting scenes from their favorite movies, it’s easy to say as an adult “wow my kid really wants to be like Elsa”, when it’s more accurate to say “right now, they are Elsa”. If you’ve ever acted in a theater class or have watched a play, you probably already know about suspension of disbelief. It’s the point where we can “turn off” being analytical to just stay in the present and bear witness to something very human. That state of mind is what I’m confident is to say is a human need, if not the beating heart of the humanities.

Kids live in that world. The purpose of play therapy is to basically give fresh canvases to people who are basically spinning engines (sometimes literally) of art and creativity. My role as a therapist here, is to step more into being the narrator or the audience beholding some new work, and to reflect back what we see from the young artist in the room. And yes, this also totally happens during board games. Sometimes, I bear witness to kids sabotaging a board game so they don’t win, because they don’t want the game to end (“I want everything to be fair! All the time! Forever!”). Sometimes, I bear witness to a tea party where the poor host is getting burnt out trying to serve tea to someone who snubs them ruthlessly (“If I do this for her, then maybe she’ll notice me, someday…”). Sometimes, I witness royalty build the castle walls higher and higher, hoping to both fortify a tower so mighty only to recognize if they move slightly the pillows they’ve used will cause their fortress to crumble (“I need to be safe! It’s too uncomfortable out there!!”). Each of these is a conversation, and sometimes my role is to bear witness to it in enough ways that we can notice more of the story happening live, together.

This process is identical when I work with adults who are creative. I’m always eager to see people’s sketchbooks if they are willing to invite me into bearing witness to it. Sometimes, motifs and patterns emerge visually. Someone who draws the mysterious character whose left eye can never be seen. Someone who finds themselves drawn to always include red-violet somewhere in their work. Someone who would punch clay to make a mold of their fist to then fire it and then adorn it with floral patterns. The goal is the same. We live in this world to make meaning, somewhere. Some meanings are more obvious than others, but the journey of having the conversation together as artist and audience is what makes these forms of art expressive art.

All of this I believe pays greater service to how we nurture intuition. I can only speak to this rooted in the context of the time of this writing, but culturally the more we value what is directly measureable, the more we feel drawn to “prove”. I think this grinds against some of the deeper value of the work. Therapeutically when we have to access intuition, the purpose isn’t to immediately “fix” something. What is there to fix? The art and expression above already exist in the world. In these moments, it’s more about bearing witness or companioning the work to honor it, or being the keeper of a story.

Whether as an adult or child, the way we express ourselves deserves to be honored and heard. Ultimately, it’s a human need that, when met, allows us to reflect and become something more. And to be candid, takes a big leap of trust! That’s why a lot of our most important depth thoughts about ourselves, or works-in-progress, are rightfully worth protecting while they sleep.

I also don’t think the conversation necessarily stops here! If this resonated, I’d love to hear what came up for you. I can be reached at

Two Truths and a Lie: Expressive Arts Edition

Art is a very funny thing. It can show great detail, dedication and skill. Sometimes it takes an artist a great deal of time to learn a technique and perfect it. What’s funny about the whole concept of art is that technically (in my distinguished opinion anyway) skill and technique has nothing to do with it. The true beauty in art is that it is really a natural outlet of feeling. Now for the truth and lie part…

Two Truths and a Lie

  • Truth Art can be used to manage anxiety. The act of art can shift our focus to something more productive and healthy. It actually regulates our nervous system, helps us express ourselves without words and even helps one to connect with their inner self.
  • Truth – Art can help to reduce stress. WHAT?! Yup, you heard it here. Art’s role in anxiety reduction also applies to reduce stress. Which makes sense since they can often go hand in hand. Art provides a distraction from our stressors, getting into a flow of creation instead of mental destruction, practicing self-care by having a healthy hobby, processing our past, dreaming about our future, and even teaching ourselves how to appreciate beauty.
  • Lie  Art therapy is done only through drawing, painting and writing. This is just not true.

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This includes drawing, painting, writing, gardening, photography, scrap-booking, caring for animal habitats, cooking, styling, origami, musical instruments, woodwork, sewing, ceramics, crafting, dancing, doing puzzles, singing and so, so much more.

Do what works for you.

Don’t worry about how it looks, what matters is how your feelings while you’re creating. Art is in the eye of the beholder and all that you have to do is look within you to behold the artist that you already are. Get out there and create.

If you need additional excuses to create, come check out Sanctuary Counseling’s Expressive Arts Workshops!



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