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Fantasy and Dreams Don’t Die After Childhood: the Nature of Expressive Arts

When people ask me to explain how play therapy for children is supposed to be similar to talk therapy for adults, I find myself drawn to explain how intuition develops with age. Do you remember nostalgic days of recess playgrounds and backyard pretend? When kids are roleplaying superheroes or re-enacting scenes from their favorite movies, it’s easy to say as an adult “wow my kid really wants to be like Elsa”, when it’s more accurate to say “right now, they are Elsa”. If you’ve ever acted in a theater class or have watched a play, you probably already know about suspension of disbelief. It’s the point where we can “turn off” being analytical to just stay in the present and bear witness to something very human. That state of mind is what I’m confident is to say is a human need, if not the beating heart of the humanities.

Kids live in that world. The purpose of play therapy is to basically give fresh canvases to people who are basically spinning engines (sometimes literally) of art and creativity. My role as a therapist here, is to step more into being the narrator or the audience beholding some new work, and to reflect back what we see from the young artist in the room. And yes, this also totally happens during board games. Sometimes, I bear witness to kids sabotaging a board game so they don’t win, because they don’t want the game to end (“I want everything to be fair! All the time! Forever!”). Sometimes, I bear witness to a tea party where the poor host is getting burnt out trying to serve tea to someone who snubs them ruthlessly (“If I do this for her, then maybe she’ll notice me, someday…”). Sometimes, I witness royalty build the castle walls higher and higher, hoping to both fortify a tower so mighty only to recognize if they move slightly the pillows they’ve used will cause their fortress to crumble (“I need to be safe! It’s too uncomfortable out there!!”). Each of these is a conversation, and sometimes my role is to bear witness to it in enough ways that we can notice more of the story happening live, together.

This process is identical when I work with adults who are creative. I’m always eager to see people’s sketchbooks if they are willing to invite me into bearing witness to it. Sometimes, motifs and patterns emerge visually. Someone who draws the mysterious character whose left eye can never be seen. Someone who finds themselves drawn to always include red-violet somewhere in their work. Someone who would punch clay to make a mold of their fist to then fire it and then adorn it with floral patterns. The goal is the same. We live in this world to make meaning, somewhere. Some meanings are more obvious than others, but the journey of having the conversation together as artist and audience is what makes these forms of art expressive art.

All of this I believe pays greater service to how we nurture intuition. I can only speak to this rooted in the context of the time of this writing, but culturally the more we value what is directly measureable, the more we feel drawn to “prove”. I think this grinds against some of the deeper value of the work. Therapeutically when we have to access intuition, the purpose isn’t to immediately “fix” something. What is there to fix? The art and expression above already exist in the world. In these moments, it’s more about bearing witness or companioning the work to honor it, or being the keeper of a story.

Whether as an adult or child, the way we express ourselves deserves to be honored and heard. Ultimately, it’s a human need that, when met, allows us to reflect and become something more. And to be candid, takes a big leap of trust! That’s why a lot of our most important depth thoughts about ourselves, or works-in-progress, are rightfully worth protecting while they sleep.

I also don’t think the conversation necessarily stops here! If this resonated, I’d love to hear what came up for you. I can be reached at

How To Clean Our Minds, Bodies & Spirits This Fall

Autumn has arrived! The cool weather days are here and the hot summer weather has (finally!) gone for the season! Fall is a time of changes, fresh starts, and fall rejuvenation! We are dusting off the summer grit, opening up our windows to let all that wonderful fresh air fill our homes, putting away our summer clothes, and re-organizing our closets. With all these changes going on with our wardrobes, homes, and material items, it leaves me wondering: what about us?

What if we could clean our minds, bodies, and spirits? I’ve been thinking about this a lot, and I might have found just the thing: dirt. It sounds crazy and counterproductive; cleaning and dirt don’t exactly go hand in hand. But the kind of cleaning I’m talking about here is cleaning our minds from our attachment to our devices, crazy schedules, and to-do lists. Clearing our bodies of the stagnant nature of hot-weather months, shaking loose, and feeling movement again; and clearing our spirits to the revitalizing awakening that happens when we are able to be outside and experience nature around us!

Let’s spend some time with nature, really taking in all the sights, sounds, smells, and feelings of the earth. Spend some time connecting with the outdoors, and allow ourselves to experience all the joys and benefits. Being outside can be so therapeutic and such a wonderful way to connect with ourselves and each other! Feeling inspired? We are too! So, we have created an EcoPsych workshop series that will run from September until November. We’ll be holding workshops on Saturdays with the intent to bring our therapy outside, focusing on the benefits of nature, and really cultivating a deep, long-lasting connection to the world and each other. Come join us and get a little bit of dirt in your lives; it just might be that magic elixir we’re looking for.

Register for an EcoPsych event here

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