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Love: Inside and Out

As the New Year approaches, so do resolutions. Please understand that it is definitely not something that is confined to the New Year. If you want to change you have every right to do so. If you need to find better habits, you have every right to do so. But please, please proceed with caution because it is all too easy to get sucked into an unhealthy habit for the purpose of a quick fix.

I like to compare body care to caring for a car…

First and foremost, keep it clean. 

Make sure that the inside AND outside are cared for, say some affirmations daily for your soul. Present yourself in a way that makes you feel comfortable and happy. Make sure that you’re putting the proper fuel into your body to run well. Understand that by putting something bad in it one time, you probably won’t ruin it but that you probably shouldn’t make a habit out of it.

Second, LOVE the imperfections. Trust that you can handle them with time and care

I know first-hand that a car can get all dinged up, or a flat tire. All it takes is some time, dedication and patience and the changes can be made to bring the body back up to maximum quality. If you get a cracked bumper or a ding in the door it CAN be fixed. Sometimes something can be popped back out good as new, sometimes it has to be buffed out and painted and waxed. Sometimes it has to be replaced altogether. What’s important is that you understand there are different processes for everything. TRUST THE PROCESS. Stop comparing yourself to others, love where you’re at and trust in your future.

Lastly, understand that your body is unique and temporary, but it is yours.

We only get one body, we can change it and mold it, and make it whatever we want, so it is our job to love it and care for it. Even if we have other responsibilities it is important not to forget that loving our bodies inside and out, and making necessary changes is important to function in our day to day lives. Make “me time”; take it for a drive, get some clarity, look past the dirt on the windshield so that you can see all of the hard work, dedication, patience, and time that has gone into your beautiful body and soul. Love you. Inside AND Out.


Ask Yourself These 10 Questions

Has someone ever put you on the spot by asking a question you really can’t (or don’t want to) answer right away? I’m talking about one of those deep philosophical questions like “What defines you?” or “Do you think you shape your own destiny, or is it all just fate?”

You may or may not have the answer right then and there. Most likely you make something up quickly and laugh a little saying, “Well, I never really thought that hard about that…”

Then later on, maybe that night, or even a few days later you’re still stuck on that question and then suddenly you know the answer. Everything seems to make a little more sense and, you know what you need to do from that point forward.

The world around us is constantly being created through our thoughts, what we do, and the decisions we make. For many of us, myself included, when we get frustrated, angry, sad, or unfocused, it’s easy to fall into a pattern of focusing on the negative.

These thoughts can consume us, bring us down, and make us question what we’re doing with our lives. I know when this happens to me, I need to somehow snap out of it, get refocused, and pull from all the positive energy sources in my life. One of the ways I do this is by asking myself a few questions.

So the next time you feel stuck or feel like you’re getting pulled down or bombarded with negativity, ask yourself the following 10 questions:

  1. Are you doing what you truly want to do?
  2. What things hold you back from doing the things that you really want to?
  3. When was the last time you tried something new?
  4. Is there anything you can’t let go of but you know you should?
  5. If you had the opportunity to get an important message across to a lot of people, what would your message be?
  6. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
  7. How can you or how do you express yourself creatively?
  8. Have you done anything lately worth remembering?
  9. Do you ask enough questions? Or do you settle for what you know?
  10. What ignites your brain or excites you in life?

Sometimes just asking the right questions will lead to the answers you need.

When you have a free moment, write the numbers 1 through 10 down on a piece of paper and try to answer these questions. They may just be the key to helping you get back on track.



“At the end of the day, the questions we ask of ourselves determine the type of people that we will become.” ~Leo Babauta

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